By Faith Haushona-Kavamba
IT was recently brought to my attention on social media that a large number of women are busy loading their bikini bodies for summer.
Every other post is of someone in the gym, at boot camp or drinking some get-thin-quick drink all in preparation for a slimmer figure for the beach or swimming pool.
Obviously there is nothing wrong with trying to get into shape, even I’m looking for a gym (that is wine friendly because drinking water while on the treadmill is not life), but I can’t help but worry about some of the messages it sends to the little ones.
Kids who have barely replaced their milk teeth are falling into this trap, where they see their favourite celebrities or idols dramatically dropping three dress sizes and they want to look like that.
On a daily basis we are over-stimulated with images of frighteningly thin women, while the more curvy and full-figured women seem to have fallen out of favour, unless of course they have the exaggerated derriere (where the leg to thigh ratio just don’t add up) and rock hard flat abs like Kim Kardashian or Nicki Minaj.
I remember being on the beach in Swakopmund a while ago, in my bikini frolicking in those ice-cold Atlantic waters like everyone else. I walked past a couple of Himba ladies who had a mouthful to say about my high-waist bikini bottom. Assuming I couldn’t understand they went on to talk about how they thought someone with an ass my size should not be in a bikini and should be ashamed.
I was shocked that they of all people were trying to body shame me. It’s not like I went to the supermarket in a thong.
Then very recently someone three times bigger than me told me to lose weight, I smirked and walked away because that was the pot calling the kettle black.
Is that why I’m signing up for the gym? No. I just want to be able to jog for five seconds without feeling like I’m bleeding internally or fainting. I’m just trying to be healthy, be able to run away from the thankless thugs and thieves that roam the streets of this city.
Unfortunately my views of self-love and learning to love your body do not seem to be very popular with the children I encounter. They are constantly talking about being on diets or wanting hormones and whatever other nonsensical remedies they read their idols using to lose weight.
When I was in high school, I dreamt about going to Hogwarts and finding the trigger to my magic powers, not which remedy I would be drinking to lose weight.
It’s time celebrities start talking to their young fans, it is time to teach them about self-love and not only make an appearance when they are promoting their latest projects. We do not want to breed a nation of eating disorders, do we?
So what if you have love handles and thunder thighs? That does not mean you contribute any less to the human race. As far as we know, you only have one life to live, do not waste it on trivial matters that do nothing to build your character or add value to your life.
Confidente. Lifting the Lid. Copyright © 2015