… As Oshakati husband sues for N$2m, after light-skinned baby is born
By Marianne Nghidengwa and Hileni Nembwaya
A heartbroken Johannes Ndume is threatening to sue Egyptian doctor Tarek Gouda for N$2 million, after the medical practitioner allegedly used his own sperm to artificially inseminate the self-employed Oshakati businessman’s wife.
Toini Iipumbu (32) and her 47-year-old husband had been struggling to conceive naturally, and in December 2015 approached Dr Gouda for assistance at his practice in the northern town.
The doctor took sperm samples from the husband to use in a series of insemination attempts, but allegedly ended up using his own sperm, during the procedure that finally led to the couple conceiving.
The torrid saga has been laid bare in documents, which are in possession of Confidente, and which indicate that Iipumbu had been employed by the doctor since 2006, as an administrator.
After the artificial insemination procedure in which the doctor’s sperm was used, Iipumbu gave birth to a light-skinned baby boy in February this year, named Jay H Ndume.
She lost her job during her maternity leave, after the doctor allegedly told her in an SMS that he was not comfortable being around her.
Confidente has reliably learnt that in a bid to silence the young couple of nearly three years, the doctor allegedly offered to pay them N$100 000 in monthly instalments of N$10 000.
The payments were allegedly made in cash between the doctor and Ndume. The doctor has paid N$40 000 in cash so far, but allegedly stopped the payments, after he feared that Ndume might report the matter to various authorities, including the Namibian police, the ministry of health, as well as the Health Professionals Council of Namibia.
Ndume has subsequently threatened to launch a lawsuit against Gouda, in which he is demanding N$2 million, which he feels is proportional to the damage caused by the doctor, including the breaking up of his marriage.
Dr Gouda hits back
However, the doctor has hit back, by accusing Ndume of blackmailing and extorting money from him.
In a letter written to Ndume by his lawyers Erasmus & Associates on 16 June, the Egyptian doctor rejects the husband’s monetary demand and allegations.
“At the outset, we are instructed that our client denies all of the allegations contained in your demand under reply, which are rejected with the contempt it deserves.
“Your demand under reply clearly constitutes an attempt by you to blackmail our client and extort money from him, which action our client will deal with in the appropriate forum at the appropriate time,” the lawyers wrote.
“Our instructions are that our client invites you to take whatever action you may wish, however cautioning you against any criminal, defamatory and wrongful acts.”
Ndume, in his demand letter, narrates that the couple, during December 2015 and April 2016, sought assistance from the doctor, in an effort to help them conceive.
“This dispute emanated from my wife Mrs Toini Sylvia Iipumbu confessing to me about a process of artificial insemination that you, Dr Gouda, allegedly performed on her, by inserting your sperm into her vagina without the permission of the two of us as a couple, knowing very well that we are legally married and it was an illegal act.
“I must also mention that I have been your patient and you have been performing the same process on me and my wife, in an effort to help us make a child. Your action resulted in my wife getting pregnant by you, and bearing a child namely Jay H Ndume,” Ndume narrated.
In the letter, he further says that after the artificial insemination, he discovered that his wife had conceived, and he was under the impression that he was the father of the unborn baby, until his wife told him otherwise.
“My wife confessed to me during the six month of pregnancy that in fact Dr Gouda impregnated her with his own sperm, through the same process of artificial insemination.”
Ndume further wrote that he then confronted the doctor, who admitted this, before offering the couple N$100 000 to keep quiet about the matter.
Life and marriage ruined
Ndume said that the doctor’s actions ruined his marriage and life.
He said that although they tried to move on with their marriage, there was always tension in their household after the birth the baby, to the extent that his wife moved out. She is now renting a place of her own, with the baby.
“I named the child and had some counselling from both families and tried to move on. Our life has turned into a mystery amongst friends and family members, because of what he has done to our marriage. My wife has contemplated divorce proceedings against me, as she is no longer convinced that things will ever be the same again in our marriage. My wife had deserted our common home and is now renting a flat with his child,” Ndume wrote.
“During the time my wife was employed by Dr Gouda, we depended mostly on each other for finances, until he fired her for no reason during her maternity leave. Our life has turned to the worse, and our marriage has now gone to the dogs.
“I am blaming Dr Gouda, as being a qualified medical doctor and a psychologist he is in better ethical position to understand the detrimental consequences that come with performing such an illegal medical process on my wife, without my consent as the husband.”
Ndume also said that the doctor allegedly sent him a text message, requesting him to write an affidavit stating that for the payments to continue until September this year, he should not expose the story.
He also said that the act was deliberate, before adding that he is incomplete without his wife.
“Let me also inform you that my life without my wife is nearly zero. My life with my wife can never be proportional to any monetary value; (you can never) think that by advancing that small amount, you are currently paying, will wipe away the pain and emotional suffering that you have caused my family.
“You were the doctor, you were the employer of my wife, you had the power to manipulate and do as you wished with her,” Ndume said.
Confidente visited Dr Gouda’s practice, situated at the Fysal Fresh Complex in Oshakati. When briefed about the reason for the visit, the doctor said, “I can’t talk to the media. I’m not interested.”
When contacted this week, Ndume said that given the chance, he would choose to move on with his wife and be a father to the baby, who he considers his own.
“To be honest, I’m going through counselling, but I am okay. If I had an option, I would choose closure, so that we move on as a family. The child is innocent and that is why he carries my surname. Yes, I was shocked and angry after all this destroyed my marriage and my family.”
Ndume ruled out the possibly of a romantic relationship between his wife and the doctor, saying that she repeatedly confessed to him and their families that she was a victim of the doctor’s unethical practices.
“I don’t think they had a relationship. There are so many witnesses who can attest to this. But at the same time I don’t know. I just want closure, so that I can move on.”
Efforts to get comment from Iipumbu proved futile, after she hung up her mobile phone, when initially briefed about the nature of the call. She subsequently did not answer repeated phone calls by Confidente.
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