By Jeoffrey Mukubi
BEING a young wife can be a challenge for many women, who are experiencing wedlock for the very first time.
Zandile de Almeida has come up with an initiative called Young Wives, which aims to create a conducive environment, where recently married women can share their experiences, and help others to ease into marriage and live a happy life.
Zandile, who is 27 years old, got married in 2015.
She said she decided to start a movement that aims to create an intimate space, where women can meet to network, share resources and inspire one another to accomplish their goals.
“As a young wife, I realised that I didn’t have a life after work. I would get up, go to work, come home, cook, clean and sleep. I had put my goals aside and put my family’s needs first,” Zandile explains.“I realised that I had to do something about it. I thought, ‘well if I felt this way, there must be other wives who felt the same’,” she continued. Zandile believes that investing at a grassroots level, is the single most effective way to create strong women.
“I love inspiring and uplifting women, because not a lot of women support and help each other, as much as they should,” she said. Young Wives will be a platform for women to help, uplift and encourage one another, she added. Zandile is planning to officially launch Young Wives soon, which will organise an array of events, including high-end tea parties, lunches and other activities for young married women. Women who have skills, such as cooking or decor decorating, will gain exposure in the process.
“I am also planning to have an annual gathering where the wives will meet, which will be themed.”
Commenting on their gatherings that will take place throughout the year, Zandile said, “We will talk, motivate each other, and have a make-up artist present, to teach us the basics of applying make-up. We will also have motivational speakers and spa treatments.” She added that she will also be targeting single women, who aspire to walk down the aisle one day. “There is this perception that once you are married you are in a jail cell, especially when you are married young. It’s really not like that. Nothing needs to change, besides your priorities. My target is the young married women, but I also want to cater for the single ladies.”
Sharing her experiences with Confidente, Zandile said being a wife is awesome.“I love it; I am a family-oriented women. I love cooking and caring for my family. My priorities had to change, like being out till the wee hours of the morning. We still have date nights and still do what we loved doing before we got married,” she said. Zandile believes that women should talk to one another, and build a strong sisterhood, be it business or other areas of life. She said that women should also congratulate each other and not hate or throw shade at each other.
Those wishing to participate in the Young Wives initiative can contact Zandile at 081 300 1992.
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